Saturday we received an unexpected $200 check in the mail for J from our agency. The letter attached said it was J's clothing allowance. I had just told Allen I was going to have to buy J a new wardrobe again because he was outgrowing some of his stuff, great timing huh? I was also pleasantly surprised because I had been under the impression that the clothing allowance was really just $50 and honestly I was not going to even bother trying to collect it.
My friend Sarah is a foster mommy too so we went shopping for the babies together. We had so much fun and got A TON of clothes. We stopped at GAP in the mall and they were having a great sale. I got at least five outfits from there.
JC Penney's had a great sale going on too so we really made out. I still have money left over for more clothes for J and I plan on going shopping later this afternoon for him again.
He needs more socks. I just don't understand where the heck his socks go. It's like they sock gnome comes and steals them. Of course I had to buy some things for Makily (out of our own money I would never use J's money for anything but J of course). I tried to get them a couple of outfits that would match for pictures. I also got a HUGE bag FULL of clothes from my friend Chontee. I haven't been able to go through them yet but I am sure J will be well dressed for quite a while!
(*thanks again Chontee*)
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J is NOT sleeping well. This started Sunday and I am not sure what is going on. My guess is it's a growth spurt. I know Allen's schedule has something to do with it too. He has really grown fond of Allen and it's so cute. Saturday Allen was putting his shoes on to go to the grocery store and J started SCREAMING and crying. He stopped as soon as Allen picked him up to take him with him. It warmed my heart :-) Last night he was up every hour and would eat at least 3-4 ounces each time and then fall back asleep. It MUST be a growth spurt right?
I also have not been sleeping well the last week or so. I have a hard time falling asleep. Court is tomorrow and I just can't stop thinking about it. My stomach is in knots. My friend Sarah has court on her foster baby girl too so we are going together. Allen will be home and is staying with the babies. He said he just doesn't think he can handle going. I know it's going to be hard for me too BUT I am too nosy NOT to go. I want to hear every word, see every expression and know every detail.
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It's safe to say that J has attached to us. He does not like being alone in a room for any period of time. It's gotten worse over the last couple of weeks. I have been reading up on attachment issues with foster babies and children. I was reading what the risk factors were and was sad to see that J has MANY of the risk factors of developing RAD (reactive attachment disorder). Read up on it. It's pretty sad. At this point he is not showing any signs of RAD but I am afraid if he is moved again, especially if it's more than a few months from now, he will have major issues with it.
When I give Makily a bath he really gets upset because he's in the play pen and we are in the bathroom. I have resorted to doing this to avoid the tantrum.
Enjoy!
My friend Sarah is a foster mommy too so we went shopping for the babies together. We had so much fun and got A TON of clothes. We stopped at GAP in the mall and they were having a great sale. I got at least five outfits from there.
JC Penney's had a great sale going on too so we really made out. I still have money left over for more clothes for J and I plan on going shopping later this afternoon for him again.
He needs more socks. I just don't understand where the heck his socks go. It's like they sock gnome comes and steals them. Of course I had to buy some things for Makily (out of our own money I would never use J's money for anything but J of course). I tried to get them a couple of outfits that would match for pictures. I also got a HUGE bag FULL of clothes from my friend Chontee. I haven't been able to go through them yet but I am sure J will be well dressed for quite a while!
(*thanks again Chontee*)
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J is NOT sleeping well. This started Sunday and I am not sure what is going on. My guess is it's a growth spurt. I know Allen's schedule has something to do with it too. He has really grown fond of Allen and it's so cute. Saturday Allen was putting his shoes on to go to the grocery store and J started SCREAMING and crying. He stopped as soon as Allen picked him up to take him with him. It warmed my heart :-) Last night he was up every hour and would eat at least 3-4 ounces each time and then fall back asleep. It MUST be a growth spurt right?
I also have not been sleeping well the last week or so. I have a hard time falling asleep. Court is tomorrow and I just can't stop thinking about it. My stomach is in knots. My friend Sarah has court on her foster baby girl too so we are going together. Allen will be home and is staying with the babies. He said he just doesn't think he can handle going. I know it's going to be hard for me too BUT I am too nosy NOT to go. I want to hear every word, see every expression and know every detail.
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It's safe to say that J has attached to us. He does not like being alone in a room for any period of time. It's gotten worse over the last couple of weeks. I have been reading up on attachment issues with foster babies and children. I was reading what the risk factors were and was sad to see that J has MANY of the risk factors of developing RAD (reactive attachment disorder). Read up on it. It's pretty sad. At this point he is not showing any signs of RAD but I am afraid if he is moved again, especially if it's more than a few months from now, he will have major issues with it.
When I give Makily a bath he really gets upset because he's in the play pen and we are in the bathroom. I have resorted to doing this to avoid the tantrum.
Enjoy!
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Two thoughts:
I have a hearing tomorrow as well! For my foster daughter who has been with me for one year, she turns 2 this week.
And....the Bonnie song, I used to sing that to my adopted daughter ALL of the time! (her birth mom named her Bonnie, we named her Grace!)
Thoughts and prayers for you tomorrow!
BTW your daughter is beautiful.
not sure about the fostering deal, but all three of mine started seperation anxiety right at J's age...Ireland screams bloody murder if she is left alone.....I do have to say that I am an in the closet dr sears attatchment parent. I have been with all three....I think some of what he has may be normal BUT another move can not be good....lord knows he will get a lot of love right where he is...email tomorrow with juicy updates!
btw...you will never find the socks....never....ever
okay I need to plan my comments better. Shame on me...
The feeding is surely a growth spurt. Unless he is just waking from the seperation anxiety and eating to comfort himself back to sleep.
Ireland nursed so much last night, I woke up and had to pick my boobs up of the floor.....She is going through a growth spurt too. Right at 6 months they go through a really big one...
Oh my gosh....love the video at the end honey!! Love it.
I want to pick Makily up. I so do.
And J..what a butter ball!
Praying for God's will.
love ya,
A
Hoping it all goes smoothly at court today.
One of the best things you can do for J regarding the possibility of RAD is exactly what you are doing - keeping him close to you, showing him that you and your husband are there to meet all his needs, all the time, and showering him with love. If he does end up moving on there are ways in which you can minimise the damage done by the move, but in the meantime, going or staying, you're giving him the best possible time.
My adopted dd came to me age 22 months which should have been an absolutely horrible time to move, having been with fostercarers since 3 months old. But the way the move was done was with such love and grace that she only has minimal problems now. Of course I don't know what'll happen in the future, but for now, it is great.
I solved the problem of her wanting to be with me at all times by bathing her and my oldest daughter together - she just sits right behind the bathaid and "helps" was my bigger girls' hair! He's a bit young right now but as he gets older might be an option perhaps?
Love the clothes - SO cute!
Tia
absolutely, you can add me.....
I'm anxious to hear how it goes today....
Good job Momma! You solved the problem and everybody is happy. Love the singing. I especially loved how Makily chimed in at the end! I've been praying for you guys and this court hearing. Hang in there!
I love the video!!!! Makily is so sweet, and you are right, what a pretty singer:) I loved it! J is a pistol isn't he? I'm sorry the hearing and parent situation and all of it is so stressful. I can't imagine! We're lifting all of you up! God's will is something I struggle with myself sometimes... If you ever need to vent don't hesitate! I don't understand the foster stuff at all, but I do know how hard it is to be uncertain about the future. You're doing a great job!
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