So just when I thought that "the powers that be" could not shock me anymore....well......they did.
I am aghast at what they have done this time. (I don't think I have ever used the word "aghast" in my life before, it's appropriate here I think!)
I don't know why but I just didn't see this coming.
I admit that I have had some pretty evil thoughts about these people in the last several days. It has helped me tremendously to read through the entries at POSTCARDS FROM INSANITY. It's funny reading my thoughts and feelings written by someone else whom has lived through this hell that I call my life.
Of course I can't share details but I will say that the behavior being displayed right now is sheer vindictive, hateful and just downright childish. How some of these people can do the things they are doing and sleep at night is BEYOND me. I get that after you are in a field for a while you can get hardened to certain things. My feelings on that is that if you have become as HARDENED as these people appear right now, then you need to find another job.
What baffles me is that the "solution" they are coming up with IS so far from what would be beneficial to J it's not even in the same atmosphere. It's so blatantly obvious that this is being done in retaliation. I revealed some things they were not doing correctly and so I suppose this is my punishment.
There is a special place in hell for some of these people.
**warning crude statement ahead*
Allen says that special place is "Under Satan's genitalia".
He said it in a WAYYY cruder way but I tried to clean it up.
Once again forgive my blatentness here. If I am anything I am REAL on my blog and well once again as ugly as it is, this is how I feel.
Keep praying blog stalkers, keep praying.
I'll never give up J.
Love you Baby Boy.
p.s. Michele from Daily Grind, now you partially know why I needed that AWESOME VIDEO you put up last night. Seriously I couldn't think straight ALL DAY and so watching your roll with your punch TOTALLY lifted my spirits. Keep the vids coming girl.
Monday, January 12, 2009
Nothing's ever easy.
Posted by Patyrish at 1/12/2009 09:53:00 AM
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It must be hot under satan's "special" place...Im glad I could cheer you a bit. In the words of micheal jackson
"whenever you need me, I'll be there"
I'm so sorry you're going thru this! I planned on writing more but that sums it up.
Thinkin of you....
Jaime
I gotta agree with your friend Michelle on the heat that special place gets.
Praying for you guys, and wishing you all of the good things you so deserve.
I hope when you say you'll never give up baby J that you don't mean that you would not give him back if the state deemed his parent or parents fit to take care of him. The first goal of Foster Care is to reunite the family, their first obligation is not to help you adopt the first baby that comes along, I'm sorry to say that but it's the truth and you really should already know that. You took on foster care because you couldn't afford to adopt but maybe you should concider saving your pennies and adopting a baby in a few years rather than going through the foster care system. Clearly you have gotten yourself attached to this child and when the day comes that he needs to be returned to his biological parents I seriously hope you give him back. People can actually change and they might actually be able to provide for baby J. You are just the extended babysitter until such time that they can provide for him. You really should have known that you are the sensitive type of person who gets attached and you should have concidered saving all that money you spent on preparing for foster care and just using it for adoption. It's too late for that now, so maybe you should concider once this case is over NOT getting another child from foster care and just saving for adoption. Personally it seems to me that your little girl has enough need of your time that it wouldn't be a bad thing to wait a little longer anyway.
Hi Anonymous, you sad, sad, sack of shit.
You have no business bringing Makily into this. She is taken care of the same as before J came. There is no difference. NONE.
The entire family loves J like he is our own, and will be sad if he has to go back to his bio family, but it will be so much easier to let him go if we knew he was going to a safe environment, and he is not. It seems that the powers that be want to turn him back regardless of whether it is safe to do so or not, just to get him out of this county and out of this system. So what if he gets removed from the home again, it will be someone else's problem.
Trish got into this ultimately to adopt a child, but knew it probably would not be the first or even the third one who came to her home. She went into this fully aware of what could happen, and was ready for that.
What she wasn't ready for was the way the system really runs, and the decisions that get made that are usually not in the best interest of the child.
Until the last second that child is in her home, she will look out for J'S interests and make sure that his needs are met. She will do what needs to be done to make sure he is safe and taken care of until DCF carts him over to his bio's care. Whatever happens when he leaves Trish's home under the order of the State and DCF's advice is on THEIR heads, and Trish will have a clear conscience that she did everything she could do to ensure his safety.
I doubt DCF will be sorry if they are wrong.
All of us will be sad when J leaves. But we will rejoice at the same time if he is going to a place where he will be happy.
people can be so ignorant and self righteous....Trish you are a great woman and go through more in one HOUR than I will in a lifetime. All the best to you, allen, Makily AND J!
Trish and other wonderful peeps on here, we have to consider the source with this anonymous creature who has posted thoughts which have caused offense.
I would put a considerable amount of money down that this person is either a current or former DCF worker somewhere in the country, or, someone who either has or has nearly had children removed from his/her care from a time.
DCF workers have a serious problem that is part their own doing and part not. The part that is not their doing is the serious case overload, the gutwrenching types of situations they deal with every day, etc. In the one and only defense I'll ever give them, they have a difficult job and a serious lack of support and resources to get that job done thoroughly. Last, they all have pressures on them. States are trying to avoid lawsuits, so these workers are really tasked to do what is legal even if sometimes it isn't what's right in the heart. (I'm NOT saying I agree with that. I'm only saying I know this is a problem.)
Of course, obviously, the part that IS the workers' fault is they do not take a stand on behalf of the welfare of the children and demand change - and they very well are the ones with the most power to do so. Workers - organize yourselves. If you need a limit on caseloads, get together and demand it. It's the only way it's ever been done in any industry under any circumstances. Don't lash out at foster parents because they are the only place you have available to lash out and focus your frustration. Fix your root cause problems, and realize that without those foster parents, your jobs would be even harder. Period. In addition, workers have the full capacity to notice when their work is changing them, and they are becoming too hardened and bitter to be effective. When that happens to any of us, we need a new job.
Now if the other option is true, and this person either had or nearly had at least one child pulled from the home, knowing the criteria that is necessary to be met in order to pull a child, would any of us care what this person had to say? Good grief.
To all the irresponsible parents out there, not just one who may have come as a troll on this blog: If you aren't going to care for your children, or you have an addictive personality and propensity for bad habits, BIRTH CONTROL IS FREE. Don't come here and criticize someone who has it all together and a heart bigger than you can imagine just to simply make yourself feel better and justify your current or past predicament. We all lie in the bed we make. If you suck as a parent, you suck as a parent, and if you had children in foster, be hopeful that foster home was anywhere near as wonderful as Trish's. Your child(ren) probably didn't want to return home.
One of the millions of problems in this society is that people think there are so many crutches out there. Hey, why bother beating the drug habit before I have to? If anyone catches me, I can simply have an "extended babysitter" take care of my responsibility while I get free court ordered rehab and sit on my butt.
Nobody takes responsibility, and it is a shame. Anonymous, you need a swift kick in the head with a steel toed boot. If you've paid attention along the way, particularly when Trish got licensed and first took Baby J in, you'll know she's well aware. If you've paid attention along the way, you'd know her concerns are only for this baby's welfare. If you have any sense at all, you'll know that is the primary role of a foster parent - to put the child first no matter what, and ADVOCATE for that child.
I think most parents who are shitty parents belong under Satan's special place. Especially the ones so blatant and so bad that the state has to get involved. The real winners can't get it together even when the state STAYS involved. You folks are top notch, really. And I can see where you'd have the nerve to lash out at someone helping the problem rather than contributing to it.
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