I can't believe I am posting ANOTHER post like this.
Last night I found out that a old friend of mine passed away.
I knew Carrie from High School.
She and I reconnected a couple of years ago. I saw a picture of her family at the therapists office. I noticed that her son had a trache and was shocked. I left my number there for her to call me and she did.
Carrie's son Brennan has cerebral palsy from complications at birth.
We had many things in common since our children had a lot of the same problems.
She LOVED Makily and it was cool to see someone meeting Makily for the first time and not even flinching at the G tube. I didn't have to explain ANYTHING to her....she just knew. That is the connection that special needs parents have. She could unhook and hook Makily up without a second thought....and I trusted and knew she could do it.
Carrie and I had a "falling out" a while back and in light of what has happened now it all seems so insignificant to me. I am reminded in her death what REALLY is important and what really is not. While she and I patched things up and we still had an amicable relationship, things werent the same. I thought of calling her last week because Makily's bed was on it's way. Brennan has a sleep safe and I was going to call her to see how hard it was to put together.
I wish I would have called her.
So at this point I am sure you are all wondering WHAT HAPPENED!?
Carrie, her husband Sean, and their three children Sarah (10), Brennan (6), and Logan (4) were on their way home Saturday night.....it was nearly midnight. A car was coming towards them in their lane......it got closer and closer until Sean had to swerve off the road to avoid a head on collision.
The van landed on it's side in a pond.
Now remember it's dark and cold.
They have three children in the van....one of which is unable to move and has a trache.
Somehow Sean and Carrie managed to get all three kids out of the van and out of the water. Brennan took some water in through his trache. This is dangerous as he can't clear his secretions very well and pond water in a trache can be life threatening.
Sean and Carrie decided to go back to the van to get Brennan's suction machine so they could clear out his lungs. Sean managed to get into the van and tried to get the suction machine. Water starting gushing in faster and faster and so Sean jumped back out of the van and at this point he realized Carrie was gone.
He and a passerby that had stopped searched furiously for her in the dark, cold pond water.
EMS arrived with lights and that is when they found Carrie floating in the water unresponsive.
She was coded at the hospital for more than an hour but unfortunately they were unable to get her back.
Carrie died doing what she always did, taking care of Brennan, trying to help her son.
I am just sick over it.
I am going to post a poem that Carrie had written for me about Makily and Brennan. She gave this to me for my birthday a few years back.
It meant so much to me then and means even more now.
(click on the picture here if you are unable to read the words)
This is Carrie holding Makily.
The little girl standing is Carrie's daughter Sarah.
Please pray for this family.
This is a link to the story in the paper.
TRAGIC ACCIDENT
Last night I found out that a old friend of mine passed away.
I knew Carrie from High School.
She and I reconnected a couple of years ago. I saw a picture of her family at the therapists office. I noticed that her son had a trache and was shocked. I left my number there for her to call me and she did.
Carrie's son Brennan has cerebral palsy from complications at birth.
We had many things in common since our children had a lot of the same problems.
She LOVED Makily and it was cool to see someone meeting Makily for the first time and not even flinching at the G tube. I didn't have to explain ANYTHING to her....she just knew. That is the connection that special needs parents have. She could unhook and hook Makily up without a second thought....and I trusted and knew she could do it.
Carrie and I had a "falling out" a while back and in light of what has happened now it all seems so insignificant to me. I am reminded in her death what REALLY is important and what really is not. While she and I patched things up and we still had an amicable relationship, things werent the same. I thought of calling her last week because Makily's bed was on it's way. Brennan has a sleep safe and I was going to call her to see how hard it was to put together.
I wish I would have called her.
So at this point I am sure you are all wondering WHAT HAPPENED!?
Carrie, her husband Sean, and their three children Sarah (10), Brennan (6), and Logan (4) were on their way home Saturday night.....it was nearly midnight. A car was coming towards them in their lane......it got closer and closer until Sean had to swerve off the road to avoid a head on collision.
The van landed on it's side in a pond.
Now remember it's dark and cold.
They have three children in the van....one of which is unable to move and has a trache.
Somehow Sean and Carrie managed to get all three kids out of the van and out of the water. Brennan took some water in through his trache. This is dangerous as he can't clear his secretions very well and pond water in a trache can be life threatening.
Sean and Carrie decided to go back to the van to get Brennan's suction machine so they could clear out his lungs. Sean managed to get into the van and tried to get the suction machine. Water starting gushing in faster and faster and so Sean jumped back out of the van and at this point he realized Carrie was gone.
He and a passerby that had stopped searched furiously for her in the dark, cold pond water.
EMS arrived with lights and that is when they found Carrie floating in the water unresponsive.
She was coded at the hospital for more than an hour but unfortunately they were unable to get her back.
Carrie died doing what she always did, taking care of Brennan, trying to help her son.
I am just sick over it.
I am going to post a poem that Carrie had written for me about Makily and Brennan. She gave this to me for my birthday a few years back.
It meant so much to me then and means even more now.
(click on the picture here if you are unable to read the words)
This is Carrie holding Makily.
The little girl standing is Carrie's daughter Sarah.
Please pray for this family.
This is a link to the story in the paper.
TRAGIC ACCIDENT
9 comments:
as the mother of 3 children with cp (as well as 2 others) this absolutely breaks my heart. please accept my condolences trish. my husband and i will be praying for sean and the children.
Oh my...I am so sorry to hear about this tradegy with your friend. It is just heart breaking. I will pray for her family. Hang in there I'm always there if only to just listen!
tara said...
i am in complete shock. whats worse is that theyre are not enough special needs teachers in the world and now her husband will have to raise the kids all by himself. its just a tragedy. God rest her soul and bring comfort to her loved ones.
Oh Honey that is soooo sad!! I will be praying for you and this family...such a tradegy!!
Oh my gosh, what a tragic story. Their family will be in my prayers.
Prayers for this family and for you Patricia, I am sorry you've had so much loss in your life lately :(
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she was my elementary school teacher i am just learning about her death now, what a complete shock this is RIP Mrs Hammer.
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